More and more I am noticing that people my age have kids. If they are single, this means baby momma drama in a lot of cases. I am not saying all, because I know there are exceptions. However, the fact of the matter is, I may end up dating a person who has a kid already, and I am facing questions that come along with that.

When would it be appropriate to meet the kid? When do you address baby momma issues and involvement? Even if the mom is a great girl and doesn’t have a problem with the dad dating other people, there is bound to be some jealousy that can come when the new girlfriend starts hanging around the kid because of the fear of being replaced as a mother. Even if these fears are unfounded (because kids are way more resilient than we give them credit for and place a lot of value on their biological parents) it doesn’t mean that the jealousy or fear of “what if?” isn’t going to be there. Which may ensue in problems for the new girlfriend. And in questioned loyalties from the father.

Then there is the whole issue with holycrapamIreadytobeaparent? Because if that relationship goes anywhere, I will be, right off the bat. And that is intense.

This isn’t a development that is happening in my life, I am just beginning to recognize the possibility more and more. So many of the people I have been meeting right now in life have kids already, and it’s probably not such a bad thing to at least put these things into consideration.

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